I’m very excited to announce that I have my very own radio show!! Girl Gang FM will go live on the 28th October!! Via Bedrock FM, Sonos & Tune in. <3 I have always loved being on the radio, and dreamed of having my own show one day. I was at rehearsals for our LA shows when I did a drop line for Bedrock FM and we got to talking and I basically told them I wanted my own show and they were like ‘let’s do it!’ !!!
The show will incorporate the spirit of girl gang, there will be guests and interviews, live performances, music and my late night dr love advice sessions. oooooo baby. Basically a continuation of the agony aunt sessions I did during the girl talk cycle (see video below) So many of you have always opened up to me about your personal lives and sought advice and help from me, so I want to take this to the radio. Girl Gang FM aims to educate, inspire and make you laugh and sing and have good dreams, or at least adventurous ones!
We are going to set up two timed Skype sessions to go out live for each show!! The audio from the session will go out live on the radio and I will be giving you face to face advice! So please email my producer at girlgangfm@gmail.com to schedule in a session. And don’t worry, if you don’t get in for our launch we will fit you in the next week or week after that, or the week after that, you get iiiit ya?!
Girl Gang FM will go out live EVERY wednesday at 10.PM and will be played again at noon UK time on thursdays. Links coming soon.
SO!! If you have a problem you need help with!! Email US!! IMPORTANT INFO BELOW FOR YOUR EMAIL.
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we can totally not use your real name when we go live; if you would like to stay anonymous feel free to use a fake name!!
AGONY AUNT SESSION EXAMPLE feat. Sarah Solemani
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I’ve been in love with the same guy for almost 5 years now. I first started liking him when I was just 12 and I’m 18 next year. I’ve been on such a journey and an emotional roller coaster with him. And so much has changed since I first met him, I’m out and proud now. We’ve never dated but stuff has happened between us. I’ve never met anyone like him and I don’t think I ever will. At the moment we are best friends, we get the bus to college together everyday. He’s been really nasty towards me over the years. No one makes me as sad or as happy as he does. I really depend on him and I hate that. I’ve tried everything to get over him but I’m in love with him. He doesn’t know but I promise you I know he doesn’t like me back in that way. He’s used and abused me, but he’s so nice and makes me cry of laughter. Kate I don’t really know what I’m trying to say but you’re the Queen and please help me because it’s driving me insane. P.S. Tysm for your honest music, it has helped me so much xxx
Will there be podcast?
Kate you wonderful human bean ily ????????????
Why don’t you focus on your music instead of this radio/blog/podcast bs?
Your songs are so beautiful! I bet you never thought you would connect with a 44 yo dentist fromMassachusetts but I can get enough of your music. I was born in the uk and I wish we stayed. Xx
It’s impressive that you are getting ideas from this paragraph as well as
from our dialogue made here.
great!
I love what you say – about self-respect – but also about how people in your past that were once important – but how its important to be happy on your own as well. I think in my life at times I’ve sort some kind of ‘redemption’ in find someone to love me – rather than find that in myself. Errgh. So hard to express these things…
Clearly, this video has got to me somehow because I find myself coming back to it and replaying it over and over again! Perhaps its also because I felt so frustrated with myself for not being able to express myself properly the first. Some thoughts. Being respected starts with self-respect and having high self-esteem. If sat here thinking of The Staples Singer song “Respect yourself”. I was in relationship that has recently ended after 15 years. And looking back I realise how accepted so much rubbish because because of not respecting myself. I was so goddamn grateful that someone wanted me, I’d sit and take anything. It was wrong of my EX to impose their ‘rules’ but I what I realise now is my mistake was agreeing to them. I did that because I didn’t respect myself. I should have said, “hey what’s with the rules.”
My EX was the jealous and controlling type – and they said they were like this because they loved me so much. In my heart I knew that wasn’t really true. Because I know jealousy and control isn’t love, its chronic insecurity. But I made excuses for them – the hard life they had. I felt like if I could just envelope them in my love, I could heal them of that. But my love was never enough. My EX used to say I was ‘weak’ and criticise my music as a ‘scratchy noise’ even as I encourage them when they had doubts about their singing. They even accused me of getting between them and their faith. This reads like I’m just slagging them off. But for me I realise how much crap I just took. And I wonder why I did.
Of course, there were plenty of moments of happiness. And I used those moments to sustain me through the years. Always working hard to make sure I got to spend more time with Jekyll than Hyde. Sometimes I blame the industry around us that give us advice and top 10 tips to “work at your relationship”. I used to say if you have to ‘work’ at a relationship then it isn’t working. But I found myself a job of relationship. And of course, when ever things came to head, it was always me who put things back together and made the peace. I just got to last year, and found I had no more fuel in my tank to do that anymore. Now I’m single again. And I feel like I’m transported back to when I was 31. But it feels good. I feel strong, independent again. There IS life after a relationship that breaks down – surround yourself with family, friends and active social life and you do come thru the other side! One day I hope to remember the good times me and my EX had. But I will also remember that what we had wasn’t perfect. They didn’t help me become the best person I can be. Only I can do that.
https://youtu.be/aDBNXB_y96k
Hi, I’m aweful at words but I’m 14 years old and basically I want to be happy and to move on I guess, and I’m finding it kinda hard. I live with both my parents who arent split up but my mum’s a bit odd(she had a brain tumour at 16 but I think there is something else wrong with her too as she’s obsessed with saving money up to the point she does things like pouring bath water down the loo, and in the past she’s been through what I’ve thrown away in the bin eg) my dad doesn’t love her but she loves him and my dad dislikes her and for some reason he’s scared to say anything honest to her. Also I’m afraid that my dad will be stuck with her forever as her condition is and will carry on getting worse. Also that stresses him out and he has to drink a certain amount of alcohol each night to relax him, not so he’s drunk but he often falls asleep in the chair and Jim worried that might get worse when hes older as my gran is a acholic. I don’t really have anyone to talk to about it cuz i don’t have any close friends, I don’t feel comfortable talking to my dad about everything and idt he does and I can’t talk to the school cuz they will tell everything to my parents and I don’t want my mum to do find out.
Also at my primary school I was bullied cuz of the age of my mum along side anything and I had a group of friends but I didnt feel I really fitted with them, and In my two first years of secondary school im was a complete loner now I’m in year nine I have a few friends but not close ones and I’m still co soldered a “loser” and j guess j always will be..
As my mum is rude to me as well and my dad used to lose his temper with me by physically attacking me as a little kid due to stress(he doesn’t anymore we are super close but he doesn’t know bout me not having friends at school) I had bad social anxiety for about a year and i was really Insecure but now I’m much more confident and I honestly feel that’s because of you cuz I’ve taught my self in a way and at the moment I wouldn’t say I’m happy but I’m not unhappy now.
I don’t really know what id like you to advise me on but I want to be happy, have good friends maby out of school and I want my dad to be happy.
Victoria,
I read with tears in my eyes your story. Your life seems tough to me. I had a tough life growing up which I live with to this day – but at least I had two loving parents to support me – well I have them now. At your age I felt very isolated, lonely and if I’m honest with myself I felt like a freak. School was tough and I was bullied daily which still hurts to this day. Your at a tender age from 5-18 and bullies don’t realise what a corrosive effect their behaviour can have you self-esteem long term.
I’m no Agony Aunt myself but I can give you advice from some who felt in similar way back then. One day when you grow up you will be a strong confident woman. You don’t feel that way now, but you will be. The teenage years for everyone is a period of self-doubt and uncertainty because your still finding out who you are, and dependent on others so much – in a practical and emotional ways. But one day you will be independent and free, and you won’t feel quite so vulnerable and at the mercy other peoples behaviour and decisions in quite the way to you do now.
So try as you can to think positive. Despite there not being anyone close too at school. There is always someone who feels just like you. Someone equally mixed up and unsure about where they stand and their future. Looking back on my school days – towards the end i had a very small group of friends who each in their own way felt different and outside of the mainstream. We found each other and gravitated to each other – in away we subconsciously recognised that in our own way were different, unique and fundamentally special. So look again at the people around you at school is there someone you can see – is just a little bit like you? Be their friend, and they will be yours… for life…
Also. Your education. I completely messed my education up. An utter disaster. I mean i think i left with 2-3 qualifications. I didn’t even get maths or english. The school incorrectly labelled me as ‘remedial’ and in the parlance of the 80s’ “educational’ subnormal”. In the context of the 80s’ I wound up on a horrible govt scheme without prospects. I realised at that point that the stress & strain I was under at school just made me want to pull the duvet over my head and not try. I resolved that had to go back. Without blowing my own trumpet. I now have a degree and masters. People are shocked and don’t understand when they hear my story how I manage to do so badly at school. The truth was my lack of education success was because I really wasn’t coping. So a couple of points. Don’t let anyone tell you are stupid or will amount to nothing. If you can, try to block out what’s going on around you – and make sure you come out with some qualifications enough to let you get to college or half decent job. That’s route out of you situation that surrounds you. That good education will serve you well for the rest of your life. Believe me I know how easier it is to say that to do it. I’ve been there. But somewhere inside you is an inner core of strength and self-belief. I just know it. Nurture that and protect that – because that’s going to get you though your tough times now, and the challenges life will throw at you in the future. And if things don’t work out education – don’t worry or think that somehow you have blown it. There are loads of really successful people who flunked out of school – who went on to do great things.
There’s little glimmer of positive in your story. Despite the grown-up saround you – having their problems and bring them into your world. It looks like you really love your Dad, and despite how he has behaved in the past to you – it sounds like he regrets that and cares for you. Tell him you love him and forgive him for the mistakes in the past – but its important he backs you now. Love should be unconditional, but at the same time it can’t be right that we love people who hurt us or undermine us. If he is a good man (and I’m sure he is) he will see this as chance to redeem himself in your eyes.
Perhaps one day your family will get their lives back together and you will be there to welcome them with open arms. But for now perhaps its time to put yourself first and make sure that the bad stuff circling you doesn’t bring you down. You have your life ahead of you. This might sounds silly but I wish I was your age again, and I had more whole life ahead me. I’ve made such a mess of things at times. But then I again I realise the mistakes and good things ive done is part of my whole life story – and contributes to the good person I am now. I say this because you probably think no-one would want to be in your shoes right. But one thing you do have is time and whole life ahead of you, and that is a fragile and precious thing
I wish ALL the best for the future.
Sending much love and hope for you…
Michelle xxx
Thankyou so much for saying this, I was going to reply says ago but never got round to doing so but what you said really did make me cry. I’m really sorry to hear about you getting bullied like you did, something that’s happened worse to you than to me and I wish you the most happiness you can get
Vicky,
You most welcome. I hope you doing better than you were before. I’m sorry I made you cry! As I just wanted to some how pass along some positive thoughts as it sounded like you were in dire need of some. Anyway, I really hope things are looking up for you.
Best Wishes
Michelle